Taking “I Am Going to Try to Breastfeed? To “I Plan to Breastfeed”


The first step in changing I am going to try to breastfeed into breastfeeding is to acknowledge that breastfeeding IS the biological norm of babies and mothers. Breastfeeding is a natural part of life that occurs as the 4th “trimester” of pregnancy.

Secondly, surround yourself with breastfeeding women, or women who breastfed, as early as you can in pregnancy and/or postpartum. They will be there to show you it is normal, listen to you, and share experiences openly and wholeheartedly. La Leche League (LLL) meetings are a great venue for this.

While becoming familiar with the idea of breastfeeding collect correct, evidence-based, and helpful information. This is NOT the pamphlet you received or may receive as part of the “Good Start” package you signed up for, with or without your knowledge, while purchasing maternity clothes. Be skeptical of a brochure that talks about “benefits” of breastfeeding with some info about breastfeeding obstacles that came with a can of free formula and bottle nipples for those occasions. There are no advantages to breastfeeding, just disadvantages to not breastfeeding. Look for information by LLL or Lactation Consultants.

After baby arrives ask your support people to assist with practical needs like getting yourself fed and laundry done and not tasks like taking baby for the night so you can sleep. You need to be mothered so that you can mother your new baby. Baby’s job is to eat, sleep and grow. Your job is to allow baby access to your breasts at his will so he can achieve his job. We want to set baby up to succeed at breastfeeding, too.

Breastfeeding is what moms and babies do. It should be fun and enjoyable. It is not a competition. It should not be a struggle. It need not create guilt and grief. It is not a goal we aim to achieve. It is just normal. When it feels harder than that, it does not mean it is wrong, it just means you need to be brought back together with some more supports, such as LLL or a Lactation Consultant (LC).

As the term “Lactation Consultant is not protected, it is important to be aware that anyone can use the term. To be sure you are getting correct, evidenced based information and support ensure that your LC is an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC).  Also, be aware of the time needed for a Lactation Consultant to assess breastfeeding. It is not as simple as looking at breast size and shape or providing you with a nipple shield. They need to be able to identify issues, real and perceived, help you work through them by getting to the source of the problem and creating a plan, not just provide a band-aid solution. If you do not feel confident in your supports, seek out another one.

guest post by my friend and lactation consultant, Kim Smith.


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