I’ve working with hundreds of birthing mamas and I’ve noticed some patterns! These women are able to achieve a gentle birthing; calmer, healthier, and safer for themselves and their babies. Here are the common actions these women take that are key to making this happen.
- They searched until they found a birth attendant who would honor their request for a normal, un-intervened birthing and they were willing to change providers if they were not comfortable with what they were hearing from the provider.
- They discussed their preferences for labor care early and often with their care provider.
- They thoroughly embraced the belief that birth is normal, natural, and healthy, and they learned to trust their birthing bodies.
- They immediately dismissed thoughts or conversations that could interfere with their birthing dreams and chose to remain upbeat, rather than uptight.
- They recognized that good nutrition is essential and carefully followed the nutrition guidelines, avoiding late third-term surprises.
- They did not depend on finding time; they made time, to condition their minds and their bodies to achieve the kind of deep relaxation they would practice during birthing.
- They were consciously aware that their posture affected their babies’ birth positioning, and they avoided bucket seats and other compromising positions.
- They recognized that during this period it is more important to be a good parent than a good patient.
- They empowered themselves with the knowledge that birthing belongs to them, and they reclaimed and maintained ownership of their births.
- They firmly, but politely expressed what they needed to ensure that their babies came into the world gently and that their birthing experience was one of joy and empowerment.
